Trauma is an experience that exceeds our ability to manage stress. Clinically, it disrupts containment: we lose our capacity for self-regulation, become drawn into instinctive coping, and often remain unaware of what’s unfolding. Trauma can happen invisibly and unnoticed, bypassing conscious thought entirely; we simply act, often without realizing the deeper implications. In these moments, the body’s ancient, evolution-driven responses take precedence, guiding us toward safety and survival.
Traumatic situations induce intense emotional and psychological stress, which damages our ability to modulate thoughts and emotions. We enter a primordial state focused on survival. While most traumas are not truly life-threatening, the body does not differentiate; it simply reacts to stress as if survival is at stake. The nervous system initiates instinctual responses — flight, freeze, orient, or fight — each deeply interwoven with childhood development and the body’s survival wisdom. These are not choices but autonomic, highly effective responses crafted by millions of years of evolution.
In my work, I encounter various trauma responses: some people dissociate or become hypervigilant, whereas others freeze or become enraged. Sometimes, they experience stress-induced shifts between these states, like unpredictable stations on a radio dial. These reactions often persist long after the initial event, manifesting as symptoms like fatigue, irritability, anxiety, or feelings of disconnection. Sometimes these patterns resolve in days or weeks, with people remarking that they “felt strange” for a while but eventually “returned to normal.” Yet, in many cases, trauma responses essentially lock the nervous system into a single persistent state, and the effects of this can linger for years, even decades.
Trauma-informed work requires a nuanced understanding of these locked responses — how the body’s patterns, designed for survival, persist beyond the original experience. These patterns often create an ever-present immediacy, where seemingly unrelated events or sensations reactivate trauma. Trauma-informed practice involves recognizing and holding these locked responses within a safe, compassionate space, allowing individuals to process their experiences without being overwhelmed. My approach emphasizes guiding people through the unwinding of these patterns, using safe containment, gradual emotional expression, and practices that help retrain the nervous system toward resilience and connection. (Outdoor experiences in groups and physical activities are among the best methods for retraining the nervous system, which is why I utilize them routinely, why they are featured prominently on this site, and why there is a rock climber shown at the top of this page.)
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Self-awareness and empathy are fundamental to this process, especially for those in support roles. Self-awareness enables us to recognize and manage our responses, creating stability without becoming overwhelmed by others’ trauma. Empathy, meanwhile, is an active skill — it requires deep listening, noticing subtle emotional cues, and remaining fully present and nonjudgmental. Combining self-awareness and empathy allows us to offer genuine, stable support, fostering a healing environment.
This trauma-informed approach is rooted in evidence-based practices and an ecological understanding of individuals within their unique histories, relationships, and environments. The many layers of experience converge to shape behaviour, including:
- Trauma: the crucible in which intense emotions are locked, as the nervous system seeks (but does not find) safety.
- Resonance: the life history and context (especially during childhood) where vulnerabilities and survival patterns first formed.
- Adaptation: coping mechanisms, such as addictions or mental health challenges, that arise as ways of managing the lingering effects of unresolved trauma.
This ecological perspective allows us to see the whole picture — trauma, mental health, and addictions as intertwined rather than separate issues. They are hues within the same landscape, with each layer influencing the others.
Healing trauma requires more than simply listening or validating; it demands a strategic approach to help the nervous system re-regulate. When people experience safe containment — a stable environment where emotions can surface without becoming overwhelming — they can begin to explore these locked responses with curiosity rather than fear. Healing involves reconnecting with the body’s natural rhythms of activation and rest. Through grounding techniques, gradual exposure to challenging emotions, and nervous system retraining, I guide people in building the capacity to face discomfort without being overtaken. This transformative process helps release and regulate intense responses, fostering growth and resilience.
Ultimately, my work centers on creating connection and belonging, restoring what trauma often takes away. Trauma isolates people from themselves and others, disrupting a fundamental human need for connection. A trauma-informed, ecological approach is about fostering safe spaces where people can reconnect with themselves, find belonging within their communities, and experience healing. This approach honours the whole person, guiding each step forward with safety, compassion, and understanding.
Trauma can be a burden, a teacher, or a source of wisdom. The path of healing does not lead us back to who we were before; trauma shapes us, reframing our perspectives and values. Authentic healing acknowledges that wisdom often lies hidden in the wound, and that meaning and purpose can be discovered through even the most difficult experiences.